It’s SO Hard Not to Care

but we should at least try not to.

Last year, I told myself and a few close loved ones I needed to stop worrying about what other people thought of me. I tried to just be myself 24/7 but honestly, it’s not as easy as I thought. Especially with growing up in the era of social media, it’s easy to be constantly judged by anyone. Family, friends, people from the past, people who just know of you, and even strangers have full access to see how you portray yourself online and judge yourself.

I came to the decision of not caring about what people thought when I realized I was making choices based on how others may perceive it. This sounds crazy but this is actually how I was going about a lot of things. I wouldn’t say that every decision I made was through this lens, but if it was something that others could see with their own eyes 9/10 I thought about their perception first (I talk about this a little more in my deep-condition chat about why you should change your look.) I pretty much came to realize that I couldn’t keep going about things this way. I had to force myself to understand that caring too much about people’s opinions gives them way too much control over my own life.

Even though I attempted to do this last year, I feel like this year it’s coming into play. I figured out a few areas in my life where I make decisions based on others and thought about how I could combat that. Now it’s all about being a better friend to myself and actually going through with these changes. A lot of times we say we’ll do something for ourselves and because no one else is holding us accountable it just doesn’t happen. Sharing my thoughts about this on my blog is holding myself accountable in a way.

Now for some people doing things and being carefree comes naturally. Unfortunately, for the rest of us, that is not the case. I shared my thoughts earlier on Tik Tok about how sometimes I don’t do things because I imagine what others are thinking. Many people shared with me that they feel the same way and have quit some of their dreams and passion projects because of it. If you’ve been thinking about doing things for yourself and thinking “it’s so hard not to care about what people think,” it’s time to try a little harder. I’m challenging anyone who needed to see this to just do what you want this year and have fun.

It’s definitely going to be a challenge but life is supposed to be fun. It’s definitely way too short to continue to live based on others. I feel more prepared this year to grow into my carefree state and just live.

Are you going to take the leap to be more carefree this year?