It’s time to focus on yourself, babe. We often get caught up in the idea that you have to have a partner or someone in your life to do fun activities, see the world, or try new things. There’s a true beauty in doing things alone, it’s like a little reminder that you don’t have to rely on others in order to be happy. With social media shoving relationships down our throats we leave date nights only for those who are in seemingly happy relationships. That leaves out the opportunity for friend dates, family dates, and what I want to focus on solo dates.
I use to think doing anything alone was scary! If I saw someone out alone I thought either they were crazy or they didn’t have anyone in their life interested in their preferred activities. Although these things could very well be true, it’s not the only reason people do things alone. That little bit of independent time with yourself can help boost your confidence and get rid of that reliance we have on others. Now don’t take this post the wrong way, building strong connections & relationships with others is just as important. However, giving yourself the space to love on yourself in the same way that you love on others is unmatched.
If you’re reading this thinking, “I already do everything alone anyways.” Think about the last time you’ve done something nice for yourself. Doing things alone & dating yourself is a little different. Just because you ran some errands alone doesn’t mean you’re dating yourself. If a person asks you to run errands as a date would you actually go? Dating yourself means, carving out time to do something specifically for you and having a plan of what that date would look like.
Now that you’re excited about your next hot date night remember to treat it just like you would a date with someone else. If doing your makeup & wearing your favorite perfume is a common date night practice, you should do that for yourself as well. More importantly, hold yourself accountable for actually going on the date. Just because it’s only you doesn’t mean you can just blow it off.
Dating yourself can look like taking yourself out, “treating yourself”, or just getting some much-needed alone time. I know how intimidating it can be to date yourself in public but once you start doing things alone, I bet you’ll have a newfound appreciation for that time. Keep reading for a few solo date night ideas!
Solo Date Ideas:
- Movie Night: Watch one of your favorite films or a new one with snacks of course. Bonus points, if you go to the theater alone!
- Spa Day: Treat yourself to a relaxing day at the spa, book the most luxurious package and enjoy yourself.
- Pick up your favorite flowers & treats: This isn’t actually a date, but this could be something you do before your date. It’s a nice gesture that a lot of us wait for others to do for us.
- Take a walk & reflect: I love dates that end with a nice walk in the park. Take a solo walk and reflect on how you’re feeling about having a little solo time.
- Take yourself out to eat: It’s not as scary as you think. Make a reservation for one at your favorite restaurant or one you’ve been hoping to try. To get through the nerves of eating alone, just remember no one is worried about you. At the end of the day, you have a meal to enjoy.
- Staycation: You can make this one into anything you want. Decorate your house, light a few candles, and order in for the night. Or find a nice hotel in your city and get-away for the weekend.
- Go shopping: Don’t think errands, think shopping spree. It’s the perfect way to treat yourself & spend a little time alone.
- Try a new hobby: I’m a hobby lover and often create fun hobby dates. You could try painting, a pottery class, or even candle-making. The possibilities are endless, just try something new!
Whatever you decide to do, remember to have fun and do it more often. Don’t allow yourself to get lost in the world of dating everyone else and leaving yourself hanging. Your relationship with you is just as important as any other relationship in your life.
Let me know what dates you’re taking yourself on this year!
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